Which language(s) will be spoken in the family? Will there be a language of the couple, a mother's language and a father's language, or a family language?
It is important that each parent speak with the child or children in his or her native language, as language is part of “visible” culture. Furthermore, the parent can communicate better and more directly in the native language than in a foreign language. Through the family’s bilingualism, the child learns that the foreign language is just as valuable as the domestic one. Bilingualism strengthens the child’s sense of self-esteem. It also enables the child to speak with relatives in the home country. Presumably one language will be dominant for a child (but not necessarily the same one for all siblings). Parents should also not be irritated if the child does not want to speak one of the languages at all. The language remains stored in his or her head.